Whether you believe it or not, love is something you strive for. No matter the age, we are always looking for someone that we click with, whether we recognize it or not its this unconscious feeling we are always looking for.
But the question existing isn't what age you should be meeting the love or your life, it's more about the time in your life, you meet the love of your life. Is there ever a perfect time to fall in love? Or does misses or mister potentially right come at the time where you need them the most?
I wish I had the answers to those questions - but I don't. Specifically in my generation, where being in love and committed seems so forbidden and success is immensely wanted, how do you make time for love?
Well I will tell you this. Many people I know say that your 20s are your selfish years and you shouldn't be in a relationship, while others say when you find someone you think you can potentially love, make sure you never let them get away.
So my question is...
What do we actually do? How do we even know the difference of love and like or whether a person is even worth our time?
If your 20s are meant to be selfish yet you find someone you click with, do you choose to give your time and love to them? Or do you focus on getting your life together?
Should you already know what you want to do with your career? Or are you still in trial and error mode?
Again, goddamnit, when is the perfect time?
Whether you have the answers or not, finding love is a struggle, that's why we must not strive to find it but let it come to us. Love can be anywhere and if you are always searching for it, you might end up with the wrong kind of love that doesn't give you the fulfillment you want.
And trust me -- that can easily happen and by the time you realize it, you will be so deep in where you have no choice but to make it work.
So again, the question existing isn't the age you should be falling in love or getting into a relationship. The question is when is the right time for you?
Do you want love when your shit is together or are you open for love whenever it comes? Whichever question best suites you, ultimately you will never know when it's the right time, because love is sudden and unexpected.
We can plan as much as we want, but you and I know that things never really go as planned.
So fuck the questions and the answers, and just follow this one motto.
Focus on what you want in life. Focus on your dreams, mapping out a plan, what your love will look like and all of those wonderful things. And as you strive to get yourself in order and understand yourself more, love will come as long as you are open for it.